Friends of Dave #360: 🦃 embracing friction 🦃
When things go bad, who is going to be there for you?
Friends, it’s a simple fact of life:
Every now and then the sh*t hits the fan.
QUICK SIDE NOTE: have you ever actually seen sh*t hit a fan? I haven’t. I mean, when I was a kid I’m pretty sure I put things in to a fan to see what would happen when it hit the moving fan blades, I have shouted into a moving fan blade like Tommy Callahan and laughed like a kindergartner, but I have never ever literally seen feces hit a fan. Makes you wonder who ever came up with the expression….hmmm….if there was only a place I could go to learn such a thing……
Yet again, I digress.
You live long enough, sh*t hits the fan.
When it does, do you know who will be there for you?
Who’s going to be the person who helps you laugh at it and see it for how absurd the whole spectacle is?
Who’s going to be the person that worries about you, your well being and how you are dealing with the sight of poop hitting a rapidly rotating piece of material?
Who’s going to be the person that calms you down? Who’s going to be the person that freaks out?
Who’s going to be the one who motivates you to clean things up? Better yet, who is the person who is going to be willing to clean up the mess for you?
Who’s going to be the one to console you and tell you that it is all going to be okay?
Who’s going to just sit there stunned, shell shocked, frozen in disbelief that today is the day that sh*t is actually hitting a fan?
Who’s going to be more interested in the physics of sh!t hitting a fan and want to analyze trajectories, grassy knolls and “magic sh!t” theories?
Who’s going to be observing that sh*t is hitting your fan and use it as an opportunity to share in detail with you about how much WORSE it was when sh*t hit THEIR fan?
Who’s going to be the one taking pictures and posting on Instagram?
Who’s going to be oblivious — to the point that someone is probably going to have to take them over to the fan and the mess all around it and say “Yo, can’t you see? Sh!t is literally hitting a fan right now….”?
Who is going to be your go-to person that will just sit there, acknowledge that it is all happening, and calmly wait for it to stop before helping you figure out the next steps?
Who is the person you will wish was there to help you?
Have you ever thought through the answers to these questions?
Because if you think back to when the last time when poop hit the fan in your life, you probably experienced these types of reactions — and I’m sure others.
Again, while most of us have probably never literally seen sh%t hit a moving fan blade, you don’t have to be a genius to know that it is going to be messy. And that is most definitely not the ideal time to start searching for answers.
So if we all agree that at some point in our lives sh!t will probably hit a fan, whether it be on a person level or professional level, perhaps it might make sense to think about the answers to the questions we might ask ourselves in advance. You know, before the fun starts and the poop starts flying in all directions.
Look at this as a sort of a fun combination of a pre-Thanksgiving/holiday season meditation exercise and the final scene out of the Wizard of Oz…..go somewhere quiet, close your eyes, and clear your mind……
And now think about poop hitting a fan….really picture it in your mind….I know, I know, but you had to know what you might be getting into when clicked on this preamble…you are now invested, so go with it….
So the 💩 is now hitting the 🪭….
Who will be there for you? Who do you want there? Who do you not? Who do you think you want there but realize maybe they shouldn’t be? Who do you think you might need to be there but maybe haven’t figured out the right person?
Shouldn’t you know the answers to these questions before sh*t gets real?
Not only will it help make the whole ordeal stink less, it helps you spend less time being horrified at the sight and allows you to mentally move on the important part — the cleanup.
That’s when you’ll really need the help and support from your people. Because it is probably going to be hard and you might not be able to do it alone.
I’ll end by invoking some words of wisdom I shared a few weeks ago:
You gotta do what you gotta do….if you fail to prepare, you prepare to fail…so, trust me, don’t get caught between a sh*t and a fart on this….
Enjoy the short week and hopefully some much needed time with your family this coming week.
XOXO
Dave
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